From all I saw, my grandparents’ marriage was a great one. My parents also had a great marriage. Each one stood the test of time, mainly because of one thing: each individual’s love of the Lord.
I never heard my grandparents or my parents argue. Although, I did see my mom get frustrated with my dad on occasion and mumble under her breath.
I know not everyone is fortunate enough to have this heritage of marriage, so I praise the Lord for these examples in my life.
The older I get, the more I understand the saying, Love is blind. I think maybe it’s true. At my age, 67, and being married for 47 years, I’ve found that, as love grows sweeter every year, it becomes blind, by turning a deliberate blind eye to (and accepting) those, um, disagreeable quirks and habits of one’s spouse.
Love learns to replace those spousal irritations with praise.
If a happy marriage is something you desire, then it will take two words: work…and one other word.
For a Valentine post I was writing, I once asked Twitter peeps for their definition of love. The one overwhelming word was…sacrifice. An act of giving up something valued for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy. The giving up of self desires and attitudes in order to make another feel loved and appreciated.
Sacrificial love is an action verb; it is what one does for someone else. Sacrificial Love came to earth and walked with its inhabitants for 33 years. Then, that Love hung on a tree one day; the Sacrifice of all time, for all time. Love sacrificed His life to give it eternally to others.
That is our example to apply to our marriage…sacrificial love.
As a happily married woman, Fawn Weaver knew that, in contrast to the negative portrayals of marriage dominating the media, other happy marriages existed. So, she started the HappyWivesClub.com.
That group has now expanded to an international online club with over 500,000 members in more than 100 countries. It was voted the #1 Marriage Blog by About.com two years in a row.
The Happy Wives Club has a 1,000,000 member challenge going on. Why don’t you hop over and join in?
And now, Fawn has written a book about the best marriage secrets the world has to offer, Happy Wives Club: One Woman’s Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage. You can grab a copy of the book here.