Today, I have a special post for you from my friend Genny Heikka. It’s an excerpt from her new book Finding Mommy Bliss. Genny is a mom, author, and speaker who lives in Northern California with her husband and two kids.
Sorry, my male readers. However, your wife may like to read this. 😀
6 Tips to Help Moms Identify and Pursue Their Dreams
Do you remember the hopes and dreams you had for your life . . . but barely? How many of us, after becoming moms, lose sight of the passion that once stirred our hearts? How many of us have stopped dreaming new dreams?
I know, I know. There are mouths to feed, rooms to clean, and dishes to wash. Who has time to dream? Sometimes it’s hard to soar when you have piles of laundry blocking your runway! But even though being a mom means you have more on your plate for sure, it shouldn’t mean setting your dreams on a shelf forever.
If that’s you, if you have all these dreams for others in your life–maybe your kids and your husband–but you’ve forgotten about the passions that once fueled your heart, here are some tips to help you rediscover and pursue them:
TIP #1: Just start. You don’t have to wait for the perfect time to pursue your dreams. If something is tugging at your heart and you long to do it, begin. God put those desires in your heart for a reason. And don’t worry about taking a big leap all at once. Sometimes baby steps are all you have time for when you have kids, and that’s okay!
TIP #2: Expect challenges and don’t face them alone, because sometimes pursuing dreams isn’t easy. Come alongside others and share your dreams. You never know what doors will open as a result. Dreaming with someone else is better than dreaming alone!
TIP #3: Be willing to shift gears. If you keep hitting your head up against a wall, consider changing direction, but not abandoning your dreams. Maybe all you need are a few minor tweaks. Sometimes, when we think we are getting a no to our dreams (like the rejection letters I got on some of my manuscripts), we are really getting more time or more training that we might need to succeed. Not every setback is a no!
TIP #4: Be willing to make mistakes. Don’t hold off on doing something because you are waiting for the perfect plan. Sometimes, our mistakes can bring the biggest blessings. And, by the way, there is no perfect.
TIP #5: Remember that nothing is a waste. One experience
will open the door for others. Each failure paves the way for future success. If you worry that you’ve wasted time or waited too long, know that nothing in your life—whether related to
your dreams or not—is a waste. God really does use everything in our lives for His purposes. And those are always good!
TIP #6: Be ready! I love the verse in Isaiah 43:19, “I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?” Whether you feel it or not, a new thing IS happening in your life. You might see it right around the corner, or you might see it years from now. God is always upstream, and all of your experiences are for a reason, so try not to get impatient or frustrated.
Don’t give up; just trust.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”—C. S. Lewis
Excerpt from chapter 13 of Finding Mommy Bliss
COPYRIGHT © 2014 by Genny Heikka
Excerpt appears courtesy of Hallway Publishing
You can also connect with her on her website gennyheikka.com.